The award-winning book from Toko-pa Turner on exile and the search for belonging.

On Belonging…

We live in one of the most connected times on earth but never before have we been so lonely, so alienated from each other, from ourselves, and from the natural world. Whether this manifests as having difficulty finding community, feeling anxiety about your worthiness and place in the world, or simply feeling disconnected, the absence of belonging is the great silent wound of our times.

Most of us think of belonging as a place outside of ourselves, that if we keep searching for, that maybe one day we’ll find it. But what if belonging isn’t a place at all, but a set of skills, or competencies, that we in modern times have lost or forgotten.

In Belonging, Toko-pa explores the origins of our estrangement, how that alienation affects the choices we make as individuals, and as a culture, and what are those skills to which we can apprentice ourselves to restore a sense of belonging in our lives, and in our world.

Belonging won the prestigious 2017 Gold Nautilus Award for its contribution to the field of Personal Growth, the 2018 Gold Readers’ Favourite Award, 2018 Silver IPPY Award, Finalist 2018 Whistler lnde­pendent Book Award, and Finalist 2019 Montaigne Medal in the Eric Hoffer Book Awards.

“I loved this book so much, I wanted to eat it.” – CM

“Underneath all the complexities of today I believe that many long for a simplicity of self that is full of wonder and magic. In Belonging, Toko-pa Turner weaves together her own life stories, dreams, and an innate feminine wisdom with real openness and vulnerability to help us on this journey home. Here are the music of nature and the stories that create us, the threads that link our waking and dreaming selves. Let her words take you into the circle of real belonging, where the heart is open and love is always present. This is a book to return to again and again.” – Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee, Ph. D, author, Spiritual Ecology: the Cry of the Earth

“Reaching courageously into the heart of our longing to belong, Toko-pa Turner makes gifts of our griefs and disappointments, and articulately reveals our most human privilege and need–to belong. Belonging brings us into the depths of our mythical rhythm and practical imagination, helping us to find our way home again and again. Through her tales of wrestling with her own inner work, Toko-pa’s writing has touched every aspect of my life–my art making, team building, family living and the quality of my leadership. This book is both timeless and utterly vital for us right now.” – Elena Brower, bestselling author of Practice You, A Journal

“With astounding clarity and compassion Toko-pa guides us to embody a humanity deeply rooted in our belonging and reverence for the grand dance of life we are part of. Through her exquisite word-magic, she midwifes the deep wisdom of our souls into incarnation.” —Chameli Ardagh, Founder Awakening Women Institute

“Certain people invite you into an experience that will alter your world view forever. They have gone so deep, searched so thoroughly, traversed territories that most would shun, and then they return and lay their soul at your feet. Toko-pa is one such individual and this book is her soul made visible. She reaches her hand out to you and asks you to take a journey with her. If you are ready, take her hand and prepare to grow.” —Clare Dubois, International speaker and founder of TreeSisters

“Belonging is something quite extraordinary. It’s more than just a book; it’s an experience. As I read Toko-pa’s writing, I found myself being transported, not to some distant place, but to my deepest core. Belonging is a mirror to our true face, revealing the exiled threads of our being so that we may gently re-weave them back into the greater fabric of which we are all a part. This is a book that provides living nourishment for these times and will be a classic for decades to come.” –Bethany Webster, author of Healing the Inner Mother

”Belonging is full of profound insights that flower from Toko-pa’s powerful life experiences and her resilient, compassionate spirit. It was breathtakingly compassionate and surefooted! Toko-pa has a poetic way of writing and thinking that makes her prose a constant surprise. There were many turns of phrase that were just so original and insightful that I wanted to linger in those gardens of words.” —Michelle Tocher, Mythologist & Author of ​Brave Work, The Tower Princess, How to Ride a Dragon


Toko-pa Turner is an award-winning author, teacher and dreamworker. Blending the mystical tradition of Sufism in which she was raised with a Jungian approach to dreamwork, she founded the Dream School in 2001 from which hundreds of students have since graduated.

Toko-pa has been interviewed by CNN News and BBC Radio and has a community of over 100,000 online readers. She is the author of the bestselling book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home, which explores the themes of exile, and the search for belonging. Sometimes called a Midwife of the Psyche, Toko-pa’s work focuses on restoring the feminine, reconciling paradox, and facilitating grief and ritual practice.



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Belonging is available at most online book retailers, or ask your favorite independent bookstore to order it for you! If you are a bookstore or book club you can order directly from Toko-pa for bulk discounts (US & Canada only).

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Companion video course for individuals & groups wanting to dive deep into the concepts and practices of “Belonging” by Toko-pa.