FAQ about Dreams


Frequently Asked Questions

about Dreams

  1. What does a dreamworker do?
  2. What can I expect in a dream session?
  3. What if I don’t remember my dreams?
  4. Are all dreams meaningful?
  5. I keep having this one recurring dream. Should I be concerned?
  6. Can you recommend some good starter books for learning about dreams?
  7. Is it possible to control your dreams?
  8. Where can I learn more?

1. What does a dreamworker do?

The dreamworker is like a psychic midwife. She mediates between the dream and waking life. Her role is to reflect you, hand you back the pieces of yourself without distortion.

All tribal traditions have such a person. Though they are found under many different names; shaman, crone, medicine man, witch, healer, analyst or priest; they all perform the same sacred function. It is to guide you towards your true path.

When you are at a crossroads; no longer what you used to be and not yet what you will become, you will find her there.

In every dreamwork session, Toko-pa draws on the wisdom of several mantic arts including; Jungian Psychology, Mythology, Sufism, Shamanism, Intuition and Energy Work.

2. What can I expect in a dream session?

A dream session is a collaboration between you and your dreamworker and is a process that is both simple and profound.

Together you explore the dream’s tapestry of symbols, building bridges back to waking life as you go.

First, you will tell the tale of your dream and Toko-pa will ask you clarifying questions to flesh it out.

Gently, you begin to unearth the dream’s treasures, bringing its questions and elucidations to consciousness.

Because these are often tender waters, the dreamer decides how deeply to dive.

Every session is different, just as every dream is unique.

The greater the dreamer’s courage and honesty, the more rewarding the journey will be.

The dreamer is always the expert, and you will know it is right when it resonates.

If you’re interested in having dreamwork done by Toko-pa, you can arrange a session over Skype or telephone. Find out more here.

3. What if I don’t remember my dreams?

The truth is that if you’re interested in remembering your dreams, you will remember them. As with most things, dreaming strengthens with intention and discipline.

While it’s normal to experience fluctuating recall cycles, the important thing is to recognize dreaming as a vital part of your life. Like a great teacher, it will reward and challenge you ceaselessly in return.

Here are some tips for recall that, if earnestly followed, will have you dreaming up a storm:

  1. Before going to bed, set the intention to remember your dreams. You may want to re-read some of your previous dreams to strengthen the waking/dreaming bridge, or meditate on a question you’d like answered.
  2. How you wake up is fundamental. Avoid using an alarm clock. Train your body to wake you up instead – you’ll be amazed by how accurate the body clock can be.
  3. Keep your eyes closed and remain in your waking position. The dream can easily be dislodged, (especially by your to-do list), so stay present with the dream, as if carrying a fragile creature across a rickety bridge.
  4. If you remember just a fragment, try not to judge or interpret it. Just hold that fragment, (be it a scene, image, character or feeling), and “rehearse” it in your mind several times until it feels solid.
  5. Keep a blank journal by your bed and write down everything you remember. Dreams are like lovers; they’ll blossom if you pay attention to them and abscond if you ignore or invalidate them.
  6. Be playful & persistent. Find enjoyable ways to explore your dreams in greater depth. Share them with a friend, start a dream group, paint your symbols or Google them on a quiet morning. Stay tuned for further clues in waking life.

4. Are all dreams meaningful?

I have never met a dream that didn’t, upon exploration, yield important insight for the dreamer.

If you are a prolific dreamer, however, and are finding the sheer volume of dreams overwhelming to process, then you might consider letting the smaller fish go.

You may also want to try asking your dreammaker to be more succinct. Sometimes the dreams that seem least significant are the ones that give the most juice.

5. I have this one recurring dream. Should I be concerned?

Recurring dreams usually mean we have a recurring issue being triggered in waking life. The cycle repeats because we keep choosing the same strategy for dealing with the problem.

It’s important with recurring dreams to not just see the pattern, but to notice the subtle differences between the dreams as well. These will show us where we are making progress.

Here’s a link to a more in-depth post on Recurring Dreams.

6. Can you recommend some good starter books for learning about dreams?

  • Living Your Dreams, Gayle Delaney
  • Way of the Dream, M.L. von Franz
  • Mystical, Magical, Marvelous World of Dreams, Wilda B. Tanner
  • Where People Fly and Water Runs Uphill, by Jeremy Taylor

7. Is it possible to control your dreams?

Yes, this is what is commonly referred to as Lucid Dreaming. It is quite simply the ability to become conscious within one’s dreams. While there is no way to entirely control a dream, we can, by the choices we make, affect their outcome.

Learning how to lucid dream can be invaluable for overcoming obstacles, creative incubation, spiritual learning and skills rehearsal.

To learn more about lucid dreaming click here.

8. Where can I learn more?

  • To have Toko-pa’s postsdelivered to your inbox automatically, simply enter your email into the “subscribe to blog” box on the home page.
  • For daily tips and inspiration on Facebook, click the “like” button at facebook.com/DreamworkWithTokopa
  • To listen to an hour-long interview with Toko-pa on CJLY, click here.

  7 Responses to “FAQ about Dreams”

  1. hello. my dreams are full, fun and telling. I understand them. interested in lucid dreaming and am making progress but find my body is so tired it wants to sleep instead of participate in the dream. becoming conscious in ones dream is good practice for consciousness through the death process. my regards, jenny.

  2. what does a dream mean if you dream of a funeral & a wedding at the same time…. Same church just different rooms?

  3. this one made me smile. dreamt i was sitting up front, next to the driver of a horse drawn carriage. Thought to myself, hey, this is a good time to put my lucid dreaming to the test….i turned to the driver and said ‘turn right’, he looked at me as if to say ‘yeah really!’ and continued to hurry us on straight ahead! Needless to say i am not interested in controlling my dreams now…i listen and learn….but i leave the direction to the one who knows the way best. 🙂

  4. I used to dream clear vivid dreams every single night. But as I’ve gotten older my dreams are less and less and I find I miss them. Is this normal? Is there something I can do to make them come back?

  5. I often record my dreams on my iPhone instead of writing them down; sometimes I write it down after recording it. Is there a difference between recording audio of the dream or writing it down? Pros & cons of both?

    • Hi dear KamalaDevi,

      I don’t think there’s any wrong or right way to record dreams! If you are finding that this method works for you, then go for it!

      Take care,

 Leave a Reply

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title="" rel=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>