Jun 212017

Artwork by Caroline Maniere

“The Summer Solstice is not a time for modesty. The wild world is not shy about its beauty and gifts. Plants and creatures are engaged in a no-holds-barred life-fest of blossoming and flourishing, each according to its unique essence, place, and purpose in this glorious weaving of Mother Earth.” – The Path of She, by Karen Clark

There is a wildness in each of us. A way of walking, a set of spots, an inclination, a blinking impulse towards which we are silently drawn. Like an elephant finding water in a desert it’s never traveled, or a bird coming to fly with brand new wings, we all have this instinctual capacity. It is the animal in us, which knows what it knows, and is the origin from which all creativity is expressed.

But in my practice I work with many medicine people who have sent their gifts for dreaming, seeing, and creativity into exile. These gifts, often forged in the belly of trauma, are sent into hiding because the world feels too hostile to use them in the open.

Many take the path well-worn instead, because it guarantees safety. The way has been mapped and we know were it leads. But the price we pay is the life half-lived. To those willing to brave the dark thicket of fear and grief for the chance of an encounter with the true self, there is a promise, a remembering, a returning to love, magic, and purpose.

There is a wildness under our skin which wants nothing more than to dance until our feet are sore, sing our beautiful grief into the rafters, and offer our bottomless cup of creativity as a way of life. Originality is really the practice of unhindering what’s already there. By originality, I mean that Grandmother Well, from which every human being drinks. That which is dreaming us. You might call it god, nature, source, instinct, but whatever word you use, it is the great unfolding through us.

This is not a time for modesty. Take a page from the book of Nature, which is blooming and buzzing and proliferating with abandon. Let yourself be expressed as the earth is, with a generosity that comes from encountering your own plenty.

Solstice is not a time for modesty. Let yourself be expressed as Nature; with abandon.Click To Tweet

Know that unhindering yourself is essential to belonging because your creative offering is like a holy signal to those who carry a similar vibratory signature. In hearing or seeing what you’ve created, they will find a sense of belonging with you and, in being found, so will you with them.

Speaking of which! You should really think about joining us for our annual Women’s Dreaming Retreat, here on our island paradise! We have about 5 spots left and the earlybird registration snuck up on us, ending in just a month, on July 20th!

This text has been adapted from my forthcoming book Belonging, due for release in early autumn! If you’d like to read more about this, sign up for my free mailing list here.

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A writer, artist and tender of dreams, Toko-pa has been interviewed by CNN News & BBC Radio and her writing has appeared in publications around the world. Thanks to Skype, she works with dreamers internationally in her Private Dreamwork practice, based on Salt Spring Island in Canada. You can find Toko-pa on Facebook or sign up for her mailing list to receive news about upcoming events.

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  5 Responses to “This is Not a Time for Modesty”

  1. Love your writing, expression of intimacy…..a depth of an embodied life that breathes all that is….

    I am away for some of your on-line course that you are currently running,are you offering another 4 week course on dreams later this year? Come to Scotland and offer a Retreat?

    with love,


    • Mmmmmm thank you for that heartfelt feedback! I would *love* to come to Scotland to offer a retreat! Right now my plate is very full, but if I can pull it off, there is some talk of me coming to the UK next Spring. Know of any great retreat centers?

      • Hi Toko-pa……wonderful! There are a variety of Retreat venues in Scotland and the UK. Depends on the nature of the workshop if you prefer it to be a “live in” retreat or attendees source there own accommodation and attend the actual workshop.
        Fabulous that you are experiencing the riches of your work!
        with love,Vivienne

  2. Dearest Toko-pa,

    Last night I dreamed that I quit holding back and allowed others to see what it is that I am and I can do! I began to sing and fly and was in such bliss doing so! I decided not to hide my gifts anymore, but to share them freely.

    Then I awoke to your beautiful post about letting go of modesty and allowing our essence to blossom and be seen!

    So often I have just connected with my own Grandmother well of knowing and had an A-HA moment only to read in your post something of a similar theme! Thank you for sharing such beauty and wisdom and for expressing your own delightful essence! I always feel connected to you!

    Suzanne in Oregon

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