Oct 042015


Artwork by Rassouli

To compare yourself to another is an organic impulse vital to the unfolding of individuality.

In our admiration of someone, we encounter the undeveloped qualities we have yet to step into, while in our healthy disdain, we come to know our refusals. Both are essential to developing a standpoint in the world.

But after comparison, you must pull back to the inner earth-work of cultivating those qualities, weeding out those rejections, and cross-pollinating your own originality into the mix, or comparison might freeze you in stasis.

Learning to trust Nature is the next responsibility of comparison. As extensions of her, we require our differences to thrive and we must shelter them in remembering that we are in service to that which dances us.

As we draw down into that commonality, we come to know that true humility is not making yourself smaller, but recognizing that we are all the same size: Necessary.

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  6 Responses to “Comparison is Essential”

  1. Gorgeous dear..
    The unpaid/downside of comparison .. All leading us to taking action for our highest good/the Good of All.
    Deep bow

  2. Oops uh Mercury retrograde or fumbling fingers on iPhone.. Or oth.. I meant upside .. Not unpaid

  3. You write beautifully!

  4. I. Love. Your thinking <3 Thank you for putting your thoughts into words (Comparison Is Essential). Very original and contrary to the status quo thinking on comparison.

  5. very much needed. Beautiful perspective of something going on all the time. Comparison is being so shameful in daily life. This is great reading <3

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