Feb 162015

It was a treat to be interviewed for Be You Media, by the lovely and talented Jenn Grosso this week. Our conversation turned to some intimate topics like depression, stage-fright and the book I’ve been writing on Belonging. I hope you find something useful here and I look forward to hearing how it lands with you:

tokopaperingIn my own life, and in the lives of the  people I’m blessed to do dreamwork with, I found that the search for Belonging is the silent conversation behind so many of the other conversations we have in the open. And while we crave this elusive thing, so few of us feel as if we’ve achieved it.

So this book has taken me deep into the question of exile in my own personal history and in my ancestral lineage, taking me as far as rural France where I’ve walked the same cobblestones my ancestors walked before meeting their death in the holocaust.

And I’ve come to understand that belonging is not a place at all, but a set of skills that we in modern culture have forgotten. This book is an attempt to enumerate what I call those ‘competencies of belonging.’”  Read the rest of the interview here.

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A writer, artist and tender of dreams, Toko-pa has been interviewed by CNN News & BBC Radio and her writing has appeared in publications around the world. Thanks to Skype, she works with dreamers internationally in her Private Dreamwork practice, based on Salt Spring Island in Canada. You can find Toko-pa on Facebook or sign up for her mailing list to receive news about upcoming events.

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  5 Responses to “Interview with Toko-pa: Be You Media”

  1. I am eager to read this book on belonging. As a introvert who would enjoy becoming a hermit, but still has moments of wanting to belong, I am curious to learn of your insights as to this lost skill. I find it so challenging — people are not often welcoming or they patronize or clique off. It is exhausting.

  2. Great to read a little about you, dear Toko-pa! And looking forward to reading your thoughts about belonging as a set of skills, and the meaning of exile for our journey. Somehow when I read your posts and the comments of other dreamers connecting with what you say I feel there is a sense of belonging that we all share across distances. Lots of love!

  3. looking forward to the book, best wishes

  4. Nice to meet you here
    Best wishes
    Nimi khanna

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