Dec 302014
Artwork by Catrin Welz-Stein

Artwork by Catrin Welz-Stein

What if nostalgia is not a fruitless dwelling on those irretrievable moments of the past, as we are taught, but an attempt by sweetness to reach you again?

What if nostalgia is really located in the present, like a scent or ambiance which is gathering around you, should you avail yourself to it.

As anyone who has been heartbroken knows, there comes a time when, long after loss has been well-lived with, a small melody of love always returns. And to your surprise, you may recognise the tone of that love as the very same love you believed you lost.

It’s then that you know your love never belonged to another. Your love was always your love. And if you let yourself be unguarded to it, nostalgia may find its way back into the generosity of your presence once again.


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A writer, artist and tender of dreams, Toko-pa has been interviewed by CNN News & BBC Radio and her writing has appeared in publications around the world. Thanks to Skype, she works with dreamers internationally in her Private Dreamwork practice, based on Salt Spring Island in Canada. You can find Toko-pa on Facebook or sign up for her mailing list to receive news about upcoming events.

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  13 Responses to “The Grace of Nostalgia”

  1. I love that. Thank you, beautiful friend.

  2. I really like this…
    because this is how I use memories or ‘nostalgia’.
    I believe there’s always a reason to remember
    even if or when it feels

    until it feels sweet.

  3. The Grace of Nostalgia – a most beautiful expression. It certainly feels to me like a gift given again when I think with love about those whom I have “lost”, but who in Reality are always with me and, when i remember ( ie ‘put them together again’) them, remember me. Whilst loss is so painful, coming to this experience of ‘sacred nostalgia’, let’s you know for sure, in your own verified experience, that it isn’t,t really a loss at all but a gain of sublime, beauteous subtlety.

  4. wonderful, just wonderful…these words are like a magic balm to me, soothing, truthful, sublime and luminous….thank you…..

  5. Beautiful. So love is always mine, and I cannot truly lose it. Very comforting. Maybe she just changes faces but cycles around and around, like the good fairy?

  6. Very beautiful thought! It reads to me like it is straight on! Thank you for giving me something to think about!

  7. Tender & exquisite as always…
    Thank you…

  8. Always wise and poetic. Thanks for your lovely thoughts.

  9. The Grace of Nostalgia, two of my favorite words together, tenderness in remembering and keeping it close in our heart. Merci!

  10. This is so beautiful! And speaks to my <3

  11. So eloquent. I will try to linger with nostalgia a little longer than I have in the past and treasure it sweet memories.

  12. Dear-Heart Toko-pa,

    Your piece on nostalgia really struck a cord with me. For seven years I have been dying of nostalgia here in Chile – missing my friends, community, life style, etc. People have asked me, “Why don’t you go back?”, but I have tried that at other junctures if my life and it has never worked out – the magic was gone – I wasn’t returning to a past glory but to a painful present which wasn’t the same.
    Since separating from my Chilean partner in 2014, living alone has brought me face to face with aspects of my old self – the parts of me I was missing. I’ve started listening to favorite music from decades past, walking and seeing my surrounding with the eyes of my adventurous youth, and creating rituals to integrate my old selves with this brand spanking new self being born right now.
    I am coming to realize that it’t not about letting go of the past as much as integrating the treasures of my past experiences into the abundance of now.
    You, as always, are helping me to do this with your thought-provoking, well-written words. I salute you, my Dream Queen and wish you continued abundance for 2015.

    Hugs & Kisses

  13. Beautiful and wise words.

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