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maia flore

Artwork by Maia Flore

To have one’s trust betrayed is one of the worst human heartbreaks. Under the pain of the dishonesty revealed in your environment, your very belief in goodness may be compromised.

The seduction in the wake of betrayal is to take up a thicker armour, to practice at expecting less of others, or to punish one’s own naïveté. But these are the same refusals from which our world is dying. Never should a judgement be made against one’s willingness to open the heart.

Trust is one of the great acts of kinship and naïveté is not, as some believe, a foolish disposition that needs to be prepared for the worst. At its root the word is from the 1670s French ‘naif’, meaning “natural, simple, artless.” It is the authentic, genuine, and literally “native disposition” of the human heart.

This is not to say that we shouldn’t practice discernment in our dealings with others, but  if our trust is broken we must remember that it says more about the other, who doesn’t yet know how to be loved, than it does about the heart who offers of itself.

Let us remount our commitment to sincerity, reassuring our native inclination to trust, and remember that even in the rubble of loss and betrayal, trust is what we all deserve.

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A writer, artist and tender of dreams, Toko-pa has been interviewed by CNN News & BBC Radio and her writing has appeared in publications around the world. Thanks to Skype, she works with dreamers internationally in her Private Dreamwork practice, based on Salt Spring Island in Canada. You can find Toko-pa on Facebook or sign up for her mailing list to receive news about upcoming events.

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  13 Responses to “Trust & the bravery of naïveté”

  1. I weep with knowing; cleansing, that my heart may wallow in Truth. Thank you, Toko-pa.

  2. Delicious. And just the right timing.
    I’ve forwarded this to the women with whom I’m sharing a writing journey, as we read our offerings from the heart chakra. (Love the art! and the words.)

  3. yes, discernment, not armament.

  4. Beautiful. The pain of lies and betrayal isn’t what I’d ever choose or wish on, and yet the experiences have helped light up and burn out learned and habitual conditions on “love”. What’s true and needed for personality doesn’t always hold for soul! My wish is that my heart will be opened more than ever. Bless you dear Toko-pa.

  5. Betrayal can be by another or by oneself or to oneself when you are afraid to be alone or feel that you’re not good enough for different reasons. Regardless of how it unfolds a loss of trust in the world and of others can bring suffering of the mind and of the heart. The way through is different for everyone but has to lead back to trust at some point along the journey home to peace and love.

  6. It takes strength and maturity to embrace the betrayer. Betrayal at a tender age can be very, very damaging.

  7. Thank you, Toko-Pa

  8. you did it again, toko-pa. the impact of your words shine a fresh light on this weary stretch of path; just when i want to refuse it once and for all.

  9. Every time I read one of these soul messages I become more certain that you are a medicine woman. Just the few words you share mean so much to me, and I’m sure to others. I don’t know how else to describe it, other than that you are a soul shaman. Thank you for sharing your words and your wisdom.

  10. Thankyou so much for the heart of these words. Trust may be one of the hardest tears (tears) to truly make the heart whole (holy) again. For me, at least, it reaches deep into the Original relationship of belonging – the one that as you call, the “native disposition” of the human heart – authentic and genuine in all its beautiful symmetry. Thankyou again

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