Oct 182013

Artwork by Polina Yakovleva

So many of us are out at sea, looking for home. We try this way and that, battling the endless march of adversaries, led by cynicism and apathy. We fight them with every poetry we possess. We are gentle. We yield. We get back to navigating our crafts.

Every once in a while, exhaustion can turn into despair. The tiny flame, which takes our every resource to shield, blows out on an unexpected gust. Even then, lightless and alone, some of us remount our enterprise.

It helps to think of more than ourselves. It helps to see the earth workers, the artists, the mothers, the lovers, the singers, the poets and dreamers as threads in a web. By ourselves we are fragile strands, songs with no listeners, but together we are a relentless network. Wherever there is depression, there is colour made vivid by the grey.

When I feel this fog rolling in on me, I light fires of affection in the hearts of others. I tell them in tangible ways how the life they live makes me live mine differently, how precious and important they are to the rest of us. That fire then becomes like a beacon which burns through the grey and which I can sail towards.


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A writer, artist and tender of dreams, Toko-pa has been interviewed by CNN News & BBC Radio and her writing has appeared in publications around the world. Thanks to Skype, she works with dreamers internationally in her Private Dreamwork practice, based on Salt Spring Island in Canada. You can find Toko-pa on Facebook or sign up for her mailing list to receive news about upcoming events.

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  16 Responses to “Lighting Fires of Affection”

  1. Thanks you.This is beautiful.

  2. Out at sea, or in a fog, it’s where the One says, “Gotcha!”.

  3. Really pretty, thanks 🙂

  4. so eloquently said……….thank you!

  5. Sail on my sweet. Your trail leaves a sparkle of one thousand stars.

  6. How beautifully expressed. It just works for me today! Thank you…<3

  7. Love. Thank you for your magnificent work

  8. Love this! Thank you so much, Toko-Pa.

  9. So beautiful….doing, saying, being good and kind always helps to clear the fog of any sort. <3

  10. Fight with every poetry we possess – such a rich phrase. Now enjoying your music. Beautiful site and inspiring!

  11. Really beautiful and poignant. Loved this.

  12. Oh thank you for this Toko-Pa, I have always suspected that those affirmations and kindnesses that I give and are given to me are part of a larger sustaining field that helps us all push forward.

  13. I need to ask this pls… do you have a faith or belief in God? Good Morning and thank you kindly. Chandra Leigh

  14. This is the very first time I’ve been on your site and what an introduction. Thank you so, so much- your words have really moved me.

    Thank you, Katie

  15. Last Paragraph: I love doing this.

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